Fixing our Perception of the Perfect Mom

The perfect mom knows how imperfect she is, and instead of beating herself up for it, she asks God to fill in the gaps. None of us has ever met a truly perfect mother, but we all have access to a perfect Heavenly Father. Invite His perfect perspective into your motherhood and you will discover what it means to be a perfectly imperfect mom.

The perfect mom is far from perfect.

She has not got it all figured out, nor does she expect to.

She is constantly falling short of her own expectations and well-versed in the art of seeking forgiveness from her children.

Her perfection lies in her willingness to continually ask God, “How can I be a better mom?”

Do you remember the moment when you decided that you wanted to become a mother?

If you are anything like me, you are going to find that memory tucked somewhere between the afternoon Ken & Barbie got married in the basement of your childhood home and that glorious day you passed your driver’s test to  earn your license.

For others, the desire to have children might not have arrived until well after the stork dropped a crying babe in your lap.

It does not matter where you find that memory; the important thing is that you search for it.

I want you to remember that feeling.

The unmistakable sense of purpose and determination you felt deep within your soul at the thought of becoming a mom.

And do you also remember the feeling of inadequacy the first time you held your freshly swaddled babe?

This little person you had been so desperate to meet left you feeling utterly deprived of sense and reason.

In that moment, you realized that you truly did not know how to be a mother.

The perfect mom knows how imperfect she is, and instead of beating herself up for it, she asks God to fill in the gaps. None of us has ever met a truly perfect mother, but we all have access to a perfect Heavenly Father. Invite His perfect perspective into your motherhood and you will discover what it means to be a perfectly imperfect mom.

But you didn’t give up.

You made a decision to do your best, and that is what you are doing even to this day.

Parenting is not a singular task to be accomplished, but a journey of self-discovery that requires complete dependence upon our Heavenly Father.

There are many things we can accomplish in our own strength; motherhood is not one of them.

The goal is not perfection, but rather a constant desire to be better tomorrow than we were today.

The only way I know how to fix things when I screw up is to ask God to shine His light into my heart.

When we humbly ask God to reveal the false beliefs that are holding us back, we unleash His transformative power into our lives.

I desire, more than anything, to be a good mother to my children.

I yearn for wisdom and pray for guidance on a daily basis, and I still spend most of my time feeling like I am failing miserably.

But, with God’s help, I will continue to strive for His version of perfection in my role as a mom.

To me, perfection in motherhood is the ability to trust God to use our imperfections for His glory in the lives of our children.

The perfect mom knows how imperfect she is, and instead of beating herself up for it, she asks God to fill in the gaps. None of us has ever met a truly perfect mother, but we all have access to a perfect Heavenly Father. Invite His perfect perspective into your motherhood and you will discover what it means to be a perfectly imperfect mom.

The perfect mom knows how imperfect she is, and instead of beating herself up for it, she asks God to fill in the gaps.

None of us has ever met a truly perfect mother, but we all have access to a perfect Heavenly Father.

Invite His perfect perspective into your motherhood and you will discover what it means to be a perfectly imperfect mom.

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Sarah Koontz

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28 thoughts on “Fixing our Perception of the Perfect Mom

  1. Thanks for the inspirational blog!I’m a 51 year old mother of 9. My 11,10 &7 year old babies are at home with me still as a single mom. I am a self-supporting mother working with my God inspired gift of jewelry making to support us.

    I too, am a mom searching for Godly Wisdom on a daily basis and love being a mom and daughter of YHWH!

      1. Thank you!and if you want to see some of my work, I’m on fb at Rondolyns Jewelry . I’m reopening my Etsy Shop too!
        I’m also homeless with the children in a motel . This is how I’m supporting all our needs!

  2. What a beautiful post, my dear friend. I don’t have kids yet, but as you already know, I’ve had to grieve the thought of knowing I will never be able to be that “perfect” mom I always wanted to/thought I’d be because of my chronic illness. This post is a great reminder for all women to trust God to use our imperfections for His glory. Amen.

    1. It’s always difficult to accept our limitations and weakness, but God is all the stronger in our lives when we do. My chronic health issues have made me a better mom, for sure! I have to be super careful about choosing only the best things, and I love to choose my kids! If I could do it all, I probably would, and my kids would suffer. Hugs to you, friend.

    1. It’s amazing how the different seasons of life require us to redefine our roles. I never appreciated what my mom did for me until I became a mom myself. And I’m sure that becoming a grandmother will change things all over again.

  3. This was a great cherry on top of what I wrote yesterday where I confessed some things in the area of motherhood. It is an area I need constant encouragement it seems like. Thank God for the Psalms. Thank you, friend!!

    Your neighbor @ Holley’s place ~

    1. Motherhood is a battleground, that is for sure! It requires such patience and grace (for ourselves and our children!). I’m so glad you stopped by, how fun that we were writing on similar topics this week 😉

  4. Imperfect mom here. So thankful for God’s grace and my children’s patience. I love this . . . “To me, perfection in motherhood is the ability to trust God to use our imperfections for His glory in the lives of our children.” All I can say is, “Amen.” God bless you!!

  5. I’ve been doing a study on the Sermon on the Mount and so much of what God is teaching me has been intertwined with parenting. Your post echoes some of that, and for that I’m grateful. Thanks for being real and sharing this. I’m glad you linked up this post at #ThreeWordWednesday.

  6. Oh how I wish someone had spoken this truth over me when I started this journey! This, “Parenting is not a singular task to be accomplished, but a journey of self-discovery that requires complete dependence upon our Heavenly Father.” could be my theme song! Thank you so much for this!

  7. Parenting is not a singular task to be accomplished, but a journey of self-discovery that requires complete dependence upon our Heavenly Father…. How true this is! And with 2 grown and gone and 2 in high school, I realize that even after they leave your house you have to depend on God to tell you how to encourage them and know when to step back and let them fully lean on God … no matter what that means.

    1. Oh my, you are reaching the end…or should I say the new beginning. Being a parent to adult children can be a challenge to say the least. I live next door to my mom, and oh how we have tested her faith and patience throughout our 20’s and 30’s. Maybe the 40’s will be different?

  8. Great post Sarah! I pray we can all learn to ask God to fill in the gaps where we struggle in motherhood. Each new phase of my kids’ lives have brought new gaps in my skills. So glad He was and is always there for me. Love ya friend.

  9. Sarah — a beautiful post. My three boys are grown and I am learning how to be a mom from “a far”. The next season will be “mother in law”. I could not be on the very imperfect journey of being a mom without relying on the Lord. Not possible! Thank you for the encouragement.

  10. Beautiful words Sarah! I am not a mom, but the desire to be perfect still runs strong in me. And it is only through His grace that I can accept that I’ll never have it all together and rely upon The One who does! 🙂

    1. The desire for perfection cripples us all, doesn’t it Nicki?!? I love that God is at work in the midst of our imperfections, gently guiding us to a deeper dependency upon His perfection.

    1. Your comment reminds me of the words of Paul in 2 Corinthians:

      But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

      Yes, His grace is sufficient!

  11. Such a great reminder that only God is perfect, and all we can do is turn to Him in our imperfection. It’s an interesting journey! Thanks for your encouraging words… stopping by from #CoffeeForYourHeart

  12. Embracing our imperfections gives Christ’s power the opportunity to shine from us! I’m right there with you, Sarah, as a fellow very imperfect Mama ♥ Love this and love the hope you share here!
    Blessings and smiles,
    Lori

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